Emotional intelligence. Those who lack it see it as an oxymoron. Maybe a lot of men haven’t been taught how to practice emotional intelligence. But caring for others should make you curious to learn. If how another person feels, perceives your actions, expresses themselves, etc. Never crosses your mind, you don’t care about them. It’s not up to a grown woman to teach you, a grown man, how to be a considerate human being. Unless she’s a mother figure to you. And a mother figure is just that. Don’t impose that role on a friend or significant other. Do your own work yourself and come back when you are able and willing to meet someone halfway. Otherwise, care enough to let it go. But I guess being perceptive enough to assess yourself and take those steps requires a degree of emotional intelligence. It’s emotionally and sometimes physically draining to do the thinking for two people. It’s an undue burden but so many men expect it.
Love without attachment is the purest love. Since it’s about what you can give others because you’re already full.
Love requires vulnerability. You truly have to give the other person the ability to hurt you IF you want to connect with them on a level beyond the superficial. The only thing you can do is work on your discernment and curate a list of deal-breakers to lessen your chances of getting burned. But ultimately you have to be vulnerable. Heartbreak is ultimately inevitable though, and wolves in sheep’s clothing are everywhere. This is life.
If you want to be with me. Spend time with your heart first. Feel everything there is to feel & don’t fight emotions that come to visit. They are your teachers before I become your muse. Your partner. I don’t want you to change to be with me, change so you can fall for you first.
I don’t believe in compromise if there’s no middle ground for a table. If you want my respect, meet me there. If you want my love, find it there. If you want my loyalty, I serve it here.
When you give and give and give and give, you learn what it means to be drained. You learn what isn’t sustainable. You can find balance, you can give and be fed if reciprocity is what you truly want. Balance involves giving without expectation of something being given in return. But most importantly giving without giving your all. You have to allow room for them to love you in return.