That “stay positive” mantra is cute but it ain’t realistic. Constant positivity is a form of avoidance, and not a valid solution to your problems. Sometimes life is fucked up, and the healthiest thing your ass could do is admit it. And I understand that you have to stay positive in order to receive the benefit in “shitty situations”. I’m referring to those who use it all the time in order for them to not confront the real problem at hand. Problems do not solve themselves by you “staying positive”. Stop trying to avoid the issue and deal with it head on because the longer you wait, the longer whatever you’re running from will be an issue.
When you work at something you dislike, it can bring enormous stress and anxiety to your life. But when you work at something you truly love, it invigorates and inspires you constantly. Since we often have to tackle work or obligations that we dislike, we may feel that those things we dislike will dictate the tone of our day and affect our mood. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You may be involved in something now that you aren’t wild about, but if you could find something to like about it, it might change your outlook.
To everyone that’s wronged me even when I was right to them, I forgive you. Even if you aren’t sorry. My heart is happy, regardless. I wish you well and I pray karma doesn’t do too much damage to you even though you deserve whatever comes your way.
You cause pain to the people you outgrow, when you stay attached to them.
Emotional intelligence. Those who lack it see it as an oxymoron. Maybe a lot of men haven’t been taught how to practice emotional intelligence. But caring for others should make you curious to learn. If how another person feels, perceives your actions, expresses themselves, etc. Never crosses your mind, you don’t care about them. It’s not up to a grown woman to teach you, a grown man, how to be a considerate human being. Unless she’s a mother figure to you. And a mother figure is just that. Don’t impose that role on a friend or significant other. Do your own work yourself and come back when you are able and willing to meet someone halfway. Otherwise, care enough to let it go. But I guess being perceptive enough to assess yourself and take those steps requires a degree of emotional intelligence. It’s emotionally and sometimes physically draining to do the thinking for two people. It’s an undue burden but so many men expect it.
#beingawomantaughtme there’s no one way to be a woman. The term “real woman” is a real man’s imagination.