When women don’t fight off unwanted sex with force, it is not because they are confused about what they want from the exchange, it is because they fear an escalation of violence. They “dead possum”, to avoid a wave of trauma they know is commencing. A clarification here: I’m not only referring to ‘freezing’ here when I say “dead possum”. I was also including the way out of fear we can have said no, be ignored, begin to feel the rape commencing, and then go along with it to keep it from becoming violent. Also, my sincerest apology to anyone whom I’ve triggered in expressing any of this. It was meant to be an earnest expression of what I have personally experienced and heard so much among other women. Thank you for sharing your hearts. The verbal communication of not wanting the sex through saying simply (even once) “no” or “I don’t want to” in any variation was implied in the initial message. I am not suggesting ever that someone should be able to read another person’s mind.