Being able to successfully express your emotions is one thing — being able to successfully acknowledge and understand someone else’s emotions is a whole other thing. Work on becoming more transparent, while simultaneously working on being more receptive to the way others feel.
It is not your responsibility to babysit people’s insecurities. You are not obligated to slow down your bloom so they can meet you at a level they are comfortable with. Your growth is too important to dim the light within you for someone still trying to find their own.
If you got hurt and you’re in the midst of healing, you can’t be starting new relationships. You can’t be extending that trauma onto others. Until you fully heal every relationship you enter is going to repeat itself.
When you don’t know yourself, you’ll be driven by the expectations of others.
Let me run game on y’all real quick. Okay. Say when you like somebody, never be to jumpy or desperate. That’s the sign of weakness. It gives the impression that the person can take advantage of you or treat you like shit because you’re afraid to losing them. In the event that you guys decide to pursue something. I personally don’t want a partner who’s afraid to lose me. I want someone who wants to be with me, however if I don’t treat that said person with respect, loyalty and love in which he or she knows they deserve; they’ll have the strength to leave me in a heartbeat. If I don’t meet a woman or man who has the strength to love themselves over everything else, how am I going to grow as a woman? You have to encounter someone who reflects your strengths and succeeds your strengths, for you to gain strength. A partner who will let you know you ain’t shit, if you ain’t on your shit. If you never meet somebody who checks you on your bullshit you will remain stagnant in those toxic ways. Ultimately, you are going to end up with someone just as toxic as you which is going to result in you having an unhappy life.
This year I lost everything I was familiar with.
Heart vs brain is by far the hardest battle but I choose my brain every time because decisions based off your heart is going to hurt you at the end of the day. Simply for the fact that your heart sees potential, while your brain sees the truth.