Change

If you worship anything, worship change. It is the only true constant in this world. If you can understand and respect change, the world belongs to you.

Let the hurt go.

Don’t be the hurt person who hurts other hurt people because you’re hurt. You will do nothing but continue to repeat the same toxic cycles and add onto the pain that’s already there. Leave the pain with who hurt you and receive the love waiting for you from who chooses you.

Understanding balance

When you give and give and give and give, you learn what it means to be drained. You learn what isn’t sustainable. You can find balance, you can give and be fed if reciprocity is what you truly want. Balance involves giving without expectation of something being given in return. But most importantly giving without giving your all. You have to allow room for them to love you in return.

Conflict

When you pretend you don’t feel your feelings, you create conflict by blocking yourself from yourself. Do not create conflict within because it will create conflict everywhere else.

“Dead Possum”

When women don’t fight off unwanted sex with force, it is not because they are confused about what they want from the exchange, it is because they fear an escalation of violence. They “dead possum”, to avoid a wave of trauma they know is commencing. A clarification here: I’m not only referring to ‘freezing’ here when I say “dead possum”. I was also including the way out of fear we can have said no, be ignored, begin to feel the rape commencing, and then go along with it to keep it from becoming violent. Also, my sincerest apology to anyone whom I’ve triggered in expressing any of this. It was meant to be an earnest expression of what I have personally experienced and heard so much among other women. Thank you for sharing your hearts. The verbal communication of not wanting the sex through saying simply (even once) “no” or “I don’t want to” in any variation was implied in the initial message. I am not suggesting ever that someone should be able to read another person’s mind.